The last time your spouse asked you for something, what was your response? Was it an immediate “no”? When was the last time you overwhelmed your spouse with love? When was the last time you exceeded his or her expectations?
The Day 38 K-LOVE Love Dare challenges us to do exactly that:
What is something your spouse would really, really love? How often do you ask yourself that question?
Common sense tells us we can’t give our wife or husband everything they might like. Our budgets and account balances tell us we probably couldn’t afford it anyway. And even if we could, it might not be good for us. Or for them.
But perhaps you’ve let ‘no’ become too quick a response. Perhaps you’ve let this negative default setting become too reasoned and rational, too automatic. What if instead of dismissing the thought, you did your best to honor it. What might happen if the one thing they said you’d never do for them became the next thing you did?
Giving the Extraordinary
What would have to happen for you to take this initiative? Does it have to be something expensive? No, but it needs to be extraordinary.
Love sometimes needs to be extravagant. To go all out. It sometimes needs to set aside the technicalities and just bless because it wants to.
Is that thinking too much like a teenager? Is love like this no longer on the menu after so many years of marriage? After all, with the way your relationship might be at the moment, wouldn’t it be less than genuine to indulge your spouse if your heart’s not in it?
Well, how about putting your heart in it. How about developing a new level of love that actually wants to fulfill every dream and desire you possibly can.
How will you achieve this? Keep in mind that the intangible gift is often more powerful than one purchased with money.
Not everything your spouse wants has a hefty price tag…or can be bought with money.
Husbands: Your wife may really want your time…your attention…to be treated like a lady, to know that her husband considers her his greatest treasure…to see in your eyes a love that chooses to be there no matter what.
Wives: Your husband may really want your respect…to [have you] acknowledge him as the head of the house in front of the children…to put your arms around his neck for no apparent reason, surprising him with a long kiss or a love note when there’s not even a birthday or anniversary to justify it…to know that you still think he’s strong and handsome, the way you used to.
As you’re thinking about what to give your spouse that will exceed his or her expectations this Valentine’s Day, remember:
- Love calls you to listen to what your mate is saying and hoping for.
- Love calls you to daydream about these opportunities so regularly that their desires become yours as well.
- Love calls you to remember the things that are unique to your relationship, the pleasures and enjoyments that bring a smile to the other’s face.
- Love calls you to give when it would be a lot more convenient to wait.
Love is calling. Will you answer?
Today’s Dare
Ask yourself what your mate would want if it were obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
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